In this episode, Virginia and Justin visit with Jeremy Stockdale, a UK-based leadership coach and founder of YLead. A former corporate executive who once believed he was one of the “good guys” Jeremy shares how a late awakening, sparked by his daughter and deep study, revealed how patriarchy harms everyone, including men.
The conversation moves through what it means to be an “activated white man”, why moral clarity is the only real motivation for systemic change, and how gender balance creates better leadership, stronger organizations, and freer lives. Jeremy, Virginia, and Justin explore the courage it takes to deconstruct conditioning, the moral obligation of privilege, and the shared responsibility to dismantle the system that divides us.
5 Takeaways
Patriarchy is everyone’s problem. Jeremy shows how men pay a steep emotional and psychological price for the same system that oppresses women.
From allyship to ownership. Being a “male ally” isn’t enough. Real transformation begins when men see gender equity as their fight too.
Privilege demands responsibility. Jeremy speaks candidly about using his access and credibility to open rooms and conversations where women’s voices are often excluded.
Gender balance, not equality, is the goal. He reframes the conversation around creating systems where all genders can thrive instead of forcing everyone into outdated molds.
Liberation is a shared project. When we stop defending the system and start redesigning it together, everyone gains freedom, health, and possibility.
